This one has been brewing in me for a while.
If you are my client or student, yup, you’ve heard me talk about this.
Understanding the ghosts in our heads can be one of the most profound pieces of work we can do to propel us where we want to be.
This is how it goes.
Two years ago I had this sudden clarity come over me. The time had come to close the design division of my business and focus on mentoring and empowering women to launch and establish their Brands, and get their powerful work into the world.
The clarity came with a sense of urgency too.
I was meant to do it right there and then.
The idea of the think.feel.Brand mastermind came up quickly, and with that, a very close encounter with the Ghosts in My Head.
Till then, my identity was as a designer. Even socially - I have talented friends, like REALLY TALENTED, working in the creative industries with prestigious work, all over the world. I had been published in multiple design books. Design is what I had done for almost 20 years - that was my world!
To step out of it and enter public conversations about inner growth AND Branding, brought with it David and Goliath-sized internal battles.
And because I’ve told this story many times, I know that some of you will really get me on this one.
I was suddenly filled with this gigantic fear. What will my cool design friends think of me?, What am I, Tony Robbins or what?, Who do I think I am to have a voice in the conversation about Inner Transformation?.
Creating anything and everything for the mastermind was painful but important. The voices of the ‘cool friends’ in my head would also disturb me so many times.
Then suddenly I stopped and had an imaginary conversation that changed it all and got me on track!
I imagined we were all in our late eighties, me and my elderly ‘cool friends’. I looked at them and said something like:
Hi there, I stayed stuck, ‘cool’ and ‘designery” for you all. My heart is broken, my work wasn’t done, but I did it for you all. Will you please finance the rest of my life and heal my inner pain NOW?
What came next is awesome.
In my imaginary conversation, they looked and me and laughed.
They said, Cris, we NEVER asked you to do any of that. It was all in your head.
Oh gosh… what a feeling...
You know what also came with that encounter?
The realisation that I didn’t come here to serve them.
And when I got on with my Mastermind and all the work that has come after. When I saw client after client do profound work AND get unstuck, when I started seeing the caliber of the work I was doing, the confidence in my calling became more solid and clear.
I barely see those ghosts show up in me anymore,
And I’m clear that I’ve got important work to do.
I no longer shrink to them internally to fit, to belong.
But I see them in most of my clients.
Women shrinking for their peers, partners, high school friends, parents, siblings., you name it!
Literally playing small, fitting in and not shaking the boat, because the fear is just too loud.
I work with them by focusing on their gift, the one that no one else on this planet has, and also their people, their tribe. Who they have come to help and lead again and again!
Clarifying those 2 can be a truly powerful antidote for clearing those ghosts in your head. But as with everything, sometimes big work can take time.
Now tell me, does this resonate with you at all?
Do you know what I’m talking about?
Have you identified those voices in you at all?